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When I was in my 20s, one of my first jobs was selling. But not only did I sell, I was taught to be “one seat close,” more graceful than a used car salesman, resembling a vulture closing machine. No remorse for people’s situations. Don’t worry about their wallets. Sell ??them and sell them at the highest price to get the highest commission possible. oh yeah, the wonderful life of a DIY dealer. I had two roommates at the time, and we were all three working for the same company. We sold conservatories, grossly inflated windows and sidings. And we lived a bachelor lifestyle to the max. We worked maybe 25 hours a week, went out 4 nights a week +, rarely got up before 11am, and made great money for twenty new bachelors. When we talked to our friends, they always asked about it. They wanted to know what we were doing, why we made so much money, and why it seemed we never worked. And of course, how did we get this job. They always envied our way of life as they rummaged in booths 9 to 5 every day for money that was barely enough to cover the cost of rent and college loans. What do you think happened to these poor souls? Well, many have actually tried to get the job done. Step into the thorn of our seemingly perfect rose.
I sincerely hated my job and my life back then. It was unhappy. At the beginning, it was a 100% commission-free job. When you started with the company, you got what was known as a “draw”. You were getting a small weekly paycheck that kept you alive. Amazing, isn’t it !? Too bad you had to pay it back. So if you didn’t come out of the burning cannons, you were on a stream without an oar. Luckily for me, I was damn good at this job, but a lot of our friends who tried it didn’t do that well. Meetings with customers, or “leads,” as we called them in the salesperson’s speech, often felt like trips to Satan’s door more than a friendly neighborhood visit to discuss how we can help people improve their homes. Hell, my friend must have found a real crack hut. The worst thing about leads is that they put so much pressure on us to throw every lead that when he walked into the crack shack, he was actually throwing crack heads! And if you were lucky enough to close the sale (a 20% close rate meant you were a star), you’d be putting in your paperwork and sitting at the altar for the next three days praying that the deal would “go well”. There was a three day cooling off right where customers could cancel the contract and more times than we wanted to admit, they did exactly that. After a three-day right of cooling off, our contractors had to go out and make sure they could complete the project. Guess what, we couldn’t always build a sunny room on the pool deck with rotting support beams. So combine 100% commission with difficult customers and the constant threat of deal failures and you get a good old-fashioned stress-filled pressure cooker. Is it any wonder we felt the need to go out for a drink 5 nights a week? We just tried to forget that we had to go to work the next day.
We all know this crazy state of male jealousy. Our perception tells us that our backyard is starting to turn brown like a cotton field in the plains of Texas, while our neighbors are growing brisk green that would make Chief Augusta National blush. So why do we feel this way? Why can’t we just be satisfied with what we have? How can we change this inevitable evil of human nature? The answer lies in our endless, constantly competing human needs. Two of them compete with each other, which causes us to often wonder if what we are currently doing is good enough.
1) Stability and comfort
2) Instability and diversity
So wait … We want stability and comfort. It makes sense. A roof over our heads. A continuous stream of income at work as we know it. A supportive girl who is always with us. But we also want diversity. So we want to live in different places? Work in new and exciting jobs? And you experience many different women? Does it make no sense? Is it true? This brings us to one of my favorite words; Oscillate. And with two needs of stability and instability, we are always looking for a balance. Too much stability and we end up in a place of boredom. Too much instability and we are annoyed by anxiety, fear and stress.
What are the strategies for tackling the stability and instability paradigm?
In our health
1) It is certainly the easiest to correct. If your training is out of date, change it. Maybe you exercise yourself four days a week. Join a weightlifting team, start taking a class, or find a weightlifting partner. Check out meetup.com website. There are groups for everything. And if not, you can start your own.
2) If you’re new to exercise, the biggest single factor stopping us from continuing on our newfound promise of fitness is that we find it too painful. The gains (weight loss) do not happen quickly enough to justify the pain of exercise. For those of us who can’t quite find our enthusiasm, we just have to try different ways to sweat until we find something we like to do. Trust me when I say this. If you find a sport or activity etc. that completely consumes you, you will soon forget about the pain.
In our work
1) Know that development will be crucial in this area of ??our lives. We often make the mistake of feeling too comfortable in our work and then turn around and realize how unfulfilled and lazy we have become. I’m not telling you to quit and start a business here, but start looking for new challenges in your current job, or if they’re not available, start looking for other job options.
2) If you have chosen the path of entrepreneur, actor, music, etc, know that you are on a long road here and nothing happens overnight. It is a path of great variety and many ups and downs. Find a side job that gives your life much-needed comfort. Your wallet and stress levels will thank you.
In our relationships
1) It can be difficult. For this balance to work, it requires a few key things. First, both people in a relationship develop at an equal pace individually. An entrepreneur meeting a teacher is likely to be more challenging than an entrepreneur meeting an actress. There is more variety in being an entrepreneur than in being a teacher, and there is more comfort and stability in being a teacher than being an entrepreneur. Second, you need the support and stability that both people can offer, while also offering a variety of relationship experiences. Often relationships become boring over time as we fall into very predictable relationship patterns. If your occasional Netflix night turns into a Netflix weekend, you know something needs to be spiced up.
2) Need to spread seeds. This is a very real thing for men. After all, this is the built-in mechanism to ensure the continuation of our species. I will not go into details here. If you want more information check out my blogs on Utopialifeonline.com
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Source by Steve T Wood